There’s no roadmap for grief

Many people will find that the news of the death of the Queen triggers memories of a personal loss. The same memories might be triggered by seeing someone who looks like your loved one. Or it could be a song, a recipe, a particular scent. There is no roadmap for...

Boundary setting

Do you find that you agree to things you don’t like and do things you don’t want to do so that people will like you?  Do you do things that will earn approval? You might do whatever it takes to make other people happy, but your free time gets swallowed up doing things...

Setting Healthy Boundaries

We can preserve good relationships and prevent overwhelm and burnout by learning how to set healthy boundaries. The dictionary says “A boundary is a limit or space between you and another person; a clear place where you begin and the other person ends . . Boundaries...

How do you get what you want and still be a nice person? I recently wrote that we are born assertive and in growing up, we are socialised into losing that ability. This particularly applies to women who are encouraged to ‘be more lady-like’ ‘need to have less to say...

Motherhood

I recently lost my mother. So many people have kindly sent condolences saying how sad it is to lose your mother. It helped me to reflect on motherhood. What’s special about it? Many women for various reasons never become biological mothers. It can be a source of great...