The Marshmallow experiment, conducted in the 60’s questioned if children were capable of delaying instant reward (of one marshmallow when the researcher left the room) if promised another marshmallow if the first remained, on the researchers return. Children in the study were followed up over 40 years. The few children who delayed their reward and waited for the second marshmallow, were far more successful in almost all areas of life. They scored higher on standard academic tests, were healthier, coped better with stress and had fewer issues with substance abuse They also demonstrated better social skills. In other words, those who learned to control their impulses, proved that this skill is pivotal to success in almost every area of life. So, in this age of instant gratification, Deliveroo in 20 minutes, Films downloaded immediately, parcels on our doorstep the next day, how do we train our brains to delay rewards? Taking up a new hobby is a good idea because it takes time to get good at it. Learning a new sport this summer might be helpful. I’ve joined a dance class and my gratification is most certainly delayed. I’m hopeless at it but it’s fun to laugh with others when I get things wrong. Learning a card game has been suggested. My grandsons, both under five beat me every time. Maybe if I improve, I can help to delay their gratification. Would that be fair? That’s another issue for another day. I’m off to practise the Tango!
The Marshmallow Experiment
